After a few years we started a new product management department and I was part of the first hours. I had a great experience to help build up something like this and since it was a new department I worked even harder to establish it.
Sometime into my first years of work life I realized that I had not made friends, outside of work, where I live and also had neglected the “old” ones, because I was just too tired to drive a few hundred kilometers to meet them. For me this was ok at that time- it allowed me more time to work.
Nobody asked me to do this- no pressure- only the one I put on myself.
What I didn’t realize was, that I defined myself by my job; including the success I had there, forgetting there is more to life than that. Also more that defines me.
I managed well for quite a while- up until a point where I did not succeed in the job, at least not in my own eyes. This caused me to question everything I had myself defined for. Me as a person. On top it also caused me to work even more, to get my success back- to be somebody again. It was time for me to find out, that sometimes it is just too much or too little.